Your ability to connect with God, and with others is what I call “Relatability.” My hope for us, is that we will become the most connected people in the world, as it relates to relationships. I’m not promising that you will become the life of the party, or have a gazillion friends, but I do believe your relational IQ can grow, and bring immense life-giving connection. Interested?
Connecting relationally in life, is debatably, as essential as air. To not be able to relate in life, is to be what I call relationally depressed. That conversation is for another day. I look forward to the conversation though:)
The man who has challenged me to write some posts on this topic, is Dr. Tim Elmore. Not only is he an outstanding leader, but a great author/writer as well. He has also been a communication coach for me, through Dr. John Maxwell’s leadership organization Equip. I highly recommend Tim’s website “Growing Leaders.” Also check out his article on “Emotional Health In Students, At An All Time Low.” Outstanding insights!
One of the first laws of relativity, as it relates to our relationships is: Learning to become Self-Aware. It is often that I meet people who just meander through life, unaware of who they really are. Often they wonder why they feel a void, or why there seems to be a constant barrage of relational conflict, or even relational exits in their lives? I have found that more often than not, their life has a relational fog that seems to be keeping them from really understanding who they are.
So Who Are You? Only you can really answer that question. Let me give you a kick-start by asking you some key questions. 1. Are you high maintenance with certain people (spouse, children, co-workers, etc) 2. Are you insecure? (same people grouping) 3. Are you constantly struggling to find time to relationally engage people? 4. Are you more reclusive, than inclusive with people? 5. Do people stress you out? 6. Do you live in conflict avoidance mode? 7. Do you struggle to care about others? This list could go on, but as you answer just a few of these questions, ask yourself “Why?” “Why” questions for me, have been the starting point, for becoming, “Self-Aware”.
So………..Why does this matter? ”Because everything rises and falls on our Relatability” (Your ability to connect relationally with God, and others).
